Parenting Experiment

***This post was updated on the 2nd September 2017, to be more transparent about some of the emotional dynamics being played out within the family


Introduction

 

The following is post is about two experiments I was involved in.

The first experiment was a family experiment between Pete and myself.

The second was a parenting experiment to discover the addictions I have created between myself and the kids, and to challenge addictions in myself and the children during the month.

Following you will find:

  1. A brief reflection of the family experiment
  2. An outline of the parenting experiment including some benefits, the details of what, who, where, when and why. Some of my personal reflections & learning during the experiment and a summary of where I am heading next.

After the “official” experiments ended I decided to continuing them as the first month I only began to become a little more aware of what is really going on in the family dynamic, I have yet to emotionally work through the causal reasons why our family is like it currently is. Continue reading

Are Vaginas Rude?

The Harpy and the vagina. This was painted when I hated my vagina and had a huge amount of anger towards it. (still more to go emotionally on this issue).

The Harpy and the vagina. This was painted when I hated my vagina and had a huge amount of anger towards it. (still more to go emotionally on this issue).

My little sister called her vagina her ‘rude part’ yesterday. I wanted to immediately ‘correct’ her and say ‘your vagina is not a rude part’.

And then I thought about it:

How do I feel about my vagina truthfully?

How do I view genitalia & body parts made for pleasure (penis’, balls/scrotum, vaginas, clitorous, bum holes, breasts etc)?

How do I feel about orgasim & ejaculation?

What are my real feelings towards sex, sexuality, my vagina, my body and the gifts God has given me?

These are questions I need to explore and find out for real.

Internal messages and memories of various happenings as a kid crossed my mind and words and feelings from people about my vagina and vagina’s in general flashed up like neon billboards.

Vagina - who wants it?

Vagina – who wants it?

I said to Iz, ‘How come you feel your vagina is a ‘rude part’?’

She said that’s what a friend of her’s called it.

I asked her if she really felt her vagina or vaginas in general were rude?

We then had a small discussion on how often people referred to parts of the body as ‘rude’ when actually they are not rude at all and that God made them as pleasure centres  – in regards to vagina’s and penis’, but even other parts of the body can bring great pleasure and it is something we can explore for ourselves to find out about.

I owned that much of what I was saying was intellectual for me, as I didn’t personally feel this way about my vagina all the time, because of various false beliefs and things that had happened to me when I was a child. We  still discussed what we thought or had heard God might think about our bodies as She was the one who made them, and what Love would do. This led onto a discussion about ‘marriage, sex and soul mates’ to which the kids had some fabulous ideas and concepts and have also picked up our errors about too. Both were great to hear.

The conversation ended but my thoughts kept going…

Vagina’s and penis,’ are such  interesting places to explore – emotionally, physically, scientifically. I know that my husband has told me they are amazing and from a purely scientific point of view it is amazing what they can do. And what they feel.

I have been reluctant to explore my vagina because of the feelings that are exposed that I have so wanted to avoid to do with being sexually abused as a child (another post to come on this subject).

Vaginas.This was painted when I hated my vagina and had a huge amount of anger towards it.

Vaginas.This was painted when I hated my vagina and had a huge amount of anger towards it.

I have recently had some interesting law of attraction events to do with sex, sexuality and vagina’s* if you are interested in exploring there are some resources  below:

 

Divine Truth – Teachings of Jesus and Mary on God’s Truth:

The Divine Truth seminars, FAQ’s and teachings of Jesus and Mary I cannot recommend highly enough! If you truly want a relationship with God and/or to heal issues in your life on all manner of subjects in a real and lasting way these are for you. The teachings are life changing, logical, simple and work when you truly engage the principles presented!

Sex and Sexuality YouTube video information – I highly recommend these videos! They present material that I have found helpful, illuminating and life changing!

FAQ’s on Partner Relationships – YouTube FAQ’s answered on Partner relationships! I found these excellent in understanding a lot of things about myself.

Divine Truth Website Audio, written, video material on God’s Truth & the teachings of Jesus and Mary on various subjects including sex and sexuality

Mary’s Blog – Post on where Mary mentions ‘God and my Vagina in the same sentence!’

 

Other Resources on Vaginas, Sex, & Sexual Abuse

Healing Sex: A Mind-Body Approach to Healing Sexual Trauma. By Staci Haines – excellent for practical and real ways to heal sexual trauma

The Emotional Incest Syndrom: What to do when a parent’s Love Rules Your Life’. By Dr Patricia Love – this book put into words and gave a name to feelings I have had that I have been told didn’t exist

Sex and Punishment, Four Thousand Years of Judging Desire, by Eric Berkowitz – history of sexual violence and acceptable and unacceptable sexual practices. In reading it I can see where sexual shame has come from.

 

* My focus is on vaginas over penis’ as I have one and I am exploring the issues I have with mine.